“The Road Home – Intimacy”

8 Essentials to Being Like Jesus

Matthew 11:28-30

June 26, 2005

First Presbyterian Church Carson City

Pastor Bruce Kochsmeier

 

 

     There is a saying in baseball, "You throw the ball, you catch the ball, you hit the ball."  These are the basics and like the basics in faith everyone on the field likes to think they already know them.  But all you've got to do is watch "Baseball Tonight" with the review of major league baseball to see that it isn't true.  All we have to do is look at our own journey and we will see the same in faith.  The most basic things; like intimacy with God are presumed to be in place.  But whether it's baseball or faith in Jesus Christ, (there's a difference?), if we don't regularly work on the basics we will not be ready at critical moments.  Any time in life is a critical moment.  This is why we need to be schooling ourselves in the ordinary elements of faith all the time.  We need to be as Paul has said, "to be taking every thought captive to the will of Jesus Christ."

 

     This morning as we focus on the first essential of intimacy with God we need to realize that there is within every person a longing to be someplace we know we need to be; a place we know exists, that is a home, but a place we’ve never been able to find.  It is the longing for true intimacy.  “Intimacy” writes pastor Chuck Swindoll, “is the state of being intimate, belonging to or characterizing one’s deepest nature 

 

     This week and in the following weeks we are going to focus on what it takes in very practical terms to come into deepening relationship with Jesus Christ.

 

     This will take discipline.  But a discipline need only be a burden when it is undertaken with things that have no place in our lives.  When we truly exercise discipline we focus only on the goal that matters and leave lesser things out of our lives.  (this reflects last week on cleaning out the closet.  It is why Jesus says, “Come to me”.  This is our discipline – coming to him and letting him carry us.

     

     Of this discipline of intimacy, a friend of mine has written, “God’s knowledge of us is intimate, visceral, personal – an intercourse of which the earth form is but a shadow.  It speaks of union and self-giving.  Isaiah says, ‘As a bridegroom rejoices over his bride, I so will rejoice over you.’” (Isaiah 62:5) (Patterson, “He Has Made Me Glad” p. 82).  This is God’s desire for intimacy with you and me.  He wants to rejoice over us.  That is why we need to come to him; so that God can rejoice.  Like the prodigal, we need to come home.  Intimacy with God in Jesus Christ is the road home.

 

     Jesus calls us into this intimacy with these words, “Come to me”.  He tells us that our discipline to know intimacy is to come to him.  In this invitation Jesus identifies why we need to come to him – because we are burdened.  With what are we burdened?  We are burdened with trying to find sufficiency in this life apart from or before submitting ourselves to Jesus.  A wise man has said of this,

     We have not advanced very far in our spiritual lives if we have not encountered the basic paradox of freedom, to the effect that we are most free when we are bound. But not just any way of being bound will suffice; what matters is the character of our binding.

     The one who would like to be an athlete, but who is unwilling to discipline his body by regular exercise and by abstinence, is not free to excel on the field or the tracks. His failure to train rigorously and to live abstemiously denies him the freedom to go over the bar at the desired height, or to run with the desired speed and endurance.

     With one concerted voice the giants of the devotional life apply the same principle for the whole of life with the dictum: Discipline is the price of freedom.

Citation: David Elton Trueblood, The New Man for our Time, Harper Collins, (January 1970)

     In this discipline Jesus does not say he is giving us another thing to do.  He says he will give us rest.  He will give us rest by removing from our lives the things that we have as burdens but do not recognize as such.  Jesus calls us in this discipline to the basics – throw the ball, catch the ball.  Pray and listen.  It is easy.  It is only hard because we make it hard.

 

     Jesus acknowledges that we get exhausted.  Do we?  Do we realize we are as worn out as we are?  DO we come to Jesus with our exhaustion?  Do we know that we are spiritually weary because we haven’t been disciplining ourselves to spend time with Jesus?

 

     Do we realize what Jesus offers to give us if we will come to him?  When we will discipline ourselves to come to Jesus he will not give us another hoop to jump through.  Jesus knows better than we do that we are exhausted.  He realizes that we have depleted ourselves of what we need most.  And what we need most is HIM.  He offers rest.  The word in the Greek describes refreshment.  That’s what spiritual intimacy is; refreshment; restoration of the relationship we most need, but that has been neglected and in the process left us exhausted. 

 

     I know, we say, “But I can’t take time for what Jesus is talking about.  I’ve got stuff that needs to get done.”  Like what?

 

     Here is what makes Jesus our Savior.  He can offer something no one else can because he is God; because he has come to give himself for us and to us.  He says, “Take my yoke upon you and learn from me for I am gentle and humble in heart.”  With this Jesus says, “I’m not like every other religion or scheme.  I want to give you less homework to do.  With me there is less to learn.”  What we need to learn is to put on Jesus’ yoke. 

 

     Vacationing in the British Virgin Islands with his family, magazine editor William Falk found himself longing for a simple life. Gazing across the water, a little island caught his attention. He learned that the population was known for enjoying a carefree lifestyle. Falk decided that's where he wanted to go.

He confessed:

I have no real wants; if anything, my life is too full. "That's precisely the problem," author Gregg Easterbrook says in his new book, The Progress Paradox. Most Americans enjoy a higher standard of living than 99.4 percent of the 80 billion human beings who've ever lived. Yet we're not content. "Our lives are characterized by too much of a good thing." Easterbrook says, "excess at every turn." We're surrounded by so much food that obesity has become a national crisis, are tempted by so much entertainment and information and stuff to buy that we sleep three hours a day less than our grandparents. At times, it leaves you staring at a four-mile-long island on the horizon, wondering what it would be like to chuck it all.

     Jesus calls us to learn from him.  If I am going to learn from him I need to spend time with him.  I will need to learn to live as he lived.  He regularly took time apart to pray and to rest and to let himself avoid being pulled in by the world’s carousel.  Do we learn this way?  One person describes how we avoid intimacy with Jesus by inadvertently getting caught in the spin of the world.  She tells this story.  Is it about us?

     Ted, a man from my church, had just returned from a business trip and went to get his luggage at the baggage area of Chicago's O'Hare Airport. Almost everyone had gotten their luggage, but there was one man older than Ted slowly making his way toward his bags, which were just behind Ted's on the conveyor belt. Ted figured he could beat out the older man and grab his bags before they cycled through the canvas flaps into the back room.

     Ted's health condition makes him a little shaky on his feet. As he reached for his bag, he became dizzy, lost his balance, and fell onto the stainless steel snake carrying his bag. So there he was, flat on his back, hanging tightly to the handle of his suitcase over his head, and riding the conveyor through the flaps into the darkness beyond. Several thoughts were going through his mind: I've been wanting to do this for years. I could get arrested. Now is probably not the best time to get off.

     So he rode the belt, still gripping his suitcase, till he and his bag passed through the flaps again into the light. At this point he looked up into the face of an official-looking woman who said, "You're not supposed to do that!" To which he replied, "Have you ever tried this?!" And she bellowed, "No!" And he said, "Don't!" Then he swung his feet to the floor, tightened his grip on the suitcase handle, stood on the edge of the conveyor belt, and walked off.

     Life is like that sometimes, isn't it? Somehow, without ever intending to, you fall on this moving belt gripping your bag, and now you can't get off. Even though you're not going where you want or where you should, you just can't get off.


     Jesus tells us to come to him.  He wants intimacy with us.  He wants us to put on his yoke because his yoke is easy and his burden is light.  “How can this be?” we ask.  Jesus shouldered the weight of the world.  How can his yoke be easy and his burden light?  Because it fit him.  Because it was what he was meant to carry. 

 

     And what we are meant to carry is Jesus, in our hearts, in our ordinary experiences, everyday, all the time.  And when this is who we are carrying; when this is our burden it will be light.  It will fit.  It won’t chafe.  There will be room for all that we need and no room for what doesn’t belong.  And it will be the road home.  It will be where we start and where we begin.  It will be where we learn to trust and pray and lose the stuff that seems so important until…until we give it away to Jesus.

 

     In the end as in the beginning God calls us to come as children; to do as we learned from the outset in childhood to do the basics; to throw the ball and catch the ball.  To stay in constant contact with him in the back and forth of prayer and obedience.  This is where we learn…where we learn to be like Jesus.  It takes the rest of our lives and that is just the right amount of time because then we will be home.  Then we will know what it means to be intimate and disciplined.  Then we will know what it means to rest in him.  May today be the day YOU and I go deeper into learning this lesson in intimacy.  Amen.